Games People Play

When things aren't going well, its all too easy to act childish and toy with your partner.Trust me - that won't get you anywhere. Toying just makes you focus on your problems instead of figuring out how to make things better.

• Don't act mean-spirited and say things just to hurt him.
• Don't focus on finding fault with everything he does.
• Don't keep score of who did or didn't do what.
• Don't fight about unimportant things.
• Don't make excuses like "i have a headache, lets not talk about this tonight" or "i'm too depressed to deal with this".
• Don't get caught up in sabotage group. These friends are having similar problems wth their mates, so you complain to each other. Since these complaints hold your group together, you fear changing because you'll lose your seat at the party.

LOVE SMART -Dr. Phil McGraw

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