Back To Basics

We all have needs, and part of a relationship and wanting to be close to someone is that this person fulfills these needs. It would seem there are seven basic categories of needs.

• v  Survival: What do you have that helps him survive and live better?
• v  Security: He wants to know that you’ll be loyal to him, that you won’t cheat on him. He wants know he’s got a soft place to fall.
• v  Affection: He wants to be shown love in various ways, from simply rubbing his back to sex.
• v  Self-esteem: He wants to know you’re proud of him.
• v  Acknowledgement:  He wants to be heard and to know that you value his opinion.
• v  Smart enough: He wants to know that you have faith in him.
• v  Purpose in life: He wants you to help him do something that’s bigger than himself that makes him feel he’s adding to welfare of the world.

LOVE SMART – Dr. Phil McGraw

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